On the Internet, not so much. We interact with and through a machine, see an “account” on the other end, remove all the context of what was said before and after, of the tone of voice and body language, of what surroundings others are in, we reduce to a few words that are convenient to type or what the communication system limits us to – and we go for whatever gives us the most attention. Because we don’t actually feel like we interact with other real humans, it’s mostly about what we get out of it. A lot of likes, reshares, replies, interactions. It helps that the services we use maximize whatever their KPI are and not optimize for what people actually want – after all, they want to earn money and that means having a lot of activity, and making people happy is not an actual goal, at best a wishful side effect.
We need to change that. We need to make social media actually social again (this talk by Chris Heilmann is really worth watching).We need to spread love (“make Trek, not Wars” in a tounge-in-cheek kind of way, no meaning negativity towards any franchise, but thinking about meanings and how we can make things better for our neighbors, our community, our world), not even hate the fear or fear the hate (which leads back into the circle), but analyze it, take it seriously and break it down. If we understand it, know how to deal with it, but not let it overcome us, fear can even be healthy – as another great screenwriter put it “Fear only exists for one purpose: To be conquered”. That is where we need to get ourselves, and need to help those other humans end up that spread hate and unreflected fear – or act out of that. Not by hating them back, but by trying to understand and help them.
We need to see the people, the humans, behind what we read on the Internet (I deeply recommend for you to watch this very recent talk by Erika Baker as well). I don’t see it as a “Crusade against Internet hate” as mentioned in the end of that talk, but more as a “Rally for Internet love” (unfortunately, some people would ridicule that wording but I see it as the love of humanity, the love for the human being inside each and everyone of us). I’m always finding it mind-blowing that every single person I see around me, that reads this, that uses some software I helped with, and every single other person on this planet (or in its orbit, there are none out further at this time as far as I know), is a fully, thinking, feeling, caring human being. Every one of those is different, every one of those has their own thoughts and fears that need to be addressed and that we need to address. And every one of those wants to be loved. And they should be. No matter who they voted for. No matter if they are a president elect or a losing candidate. We don’t need to agree with everything they are saying. But their fears should be addressed and conquered. And yes, they should be loved. Their differences should be celebrated and their commonalities embraced at the same time. Yes, that’s possible, think about it. Again, see the philosophy of infinite diversity in infinite combinations.
I want an Internet that connects those humans, brings them closer together, makes them understand each other more, makes them love each other’s humanity. I don’t care how many “things” we connect to the Internet, I care that the needs and feelings of humans and their individual and shared lives improve. I care that their devices and gadgets are their own, help their individuality, and help them embrace other humans (not treat them as accounts and heaps to data to be analyzed and sold stuff to). I want everyone to see that everyone else is (just) human, and spread love to or at least embrace them as humans. Then the world, the humans in it, and myself, can make it out of the difficult times and live long and prosper in the future.
I want an Internet of humans.
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